Child Visitation Rights

Many parents want to receive child visitation rights. The motives behind receiving those rights is greatly varied however. There are parents who want time so that they don't have to pay child support. Then there are the ones who feel obligated to uphold their responsibilities. Also some just want to hurt the other parent. And finally there are those who genuinely want to spend time with the little people who they love.

Ending Relationships Can Be Devastating

At the end of a relationship between two people there are a lot of emotions that come up. Sadness and anger being the 2 most relevant. When there are children involved, however, so many more can surface.

After-all when there are children you have to consider them as well. Try to comfort your children and put their interests before your own. This might even mean allowing the other parent time with the kids because they need to know they are important to you both.

If the relationship was one which turned to violence then you may need to seek additional help. Try reading this article about getting past domestic violence. Tiffany from Raisinggoodpeople.org went through a lot and has decided to share some of her story. Co-Parenting After Domestic Violence.

Starting the Process of Child Visitation Rights

If you are agreeing or not then it is still a good idea to go to court and receive a formal Child Visitation Rights Order. If the two of you can agree on a parenting plan then they will simply write it up for you and the judge will sign it.

If you agree on some of it but not all the you will see a mediation councilor who will facilitate the documenting process and if necessary recommend to the judge what she thinks would be in the best interests of the children.

The judge has the final say but they will usually take what the mediators recommend and sign off on it. In the state of California this is troublesome in cases where there was undocumented abuse in the relationship because it is a no fault separation state. What that means is child visitation rights are awarded equally to both parents if both parents want them.

In cases where there is only verbal allegations of abuse the children could be forced to spend half of their time with the abusive parent. Here is a case where the abused parent was fighting for custody for years before getting granted custody. When Father's Rights Are Taken Too Far.

Co-Parenting Should Be Easy On Everyone

Children should be allowed to live at their two homes peacefully. What Co-Parenting Should Look Like. First of all the romantic relationship between you and your ex might be over but you still have to have a parenting relationship. The first thing you have to do is let go of the anger and blame of the romantic relationship in order to form a healthy parenting one.

I recommend reading some books about Co-Parenting and Child Visitation Rights.

If there was violence I recommend How to Parent With An Abusive Ex and Keep Your Sanity
If there was marriage I recommend Co-Parenting 101: Helping Your Kids Thrive ...
If there was parental alienation I recommend Overcoming the Co-Parenting Trap: Essential Parenting Skills When A Child Resists a Parent and Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: What to Do When Your Ex-Spouse Tries to Turn the Kids Against You

8 Easy Ways to Start a Blogging Career Today

8 Easy Ways to Start Blogging Today

Find Your Niche 

When you decide to get into blogging, all the sites tell you to pick a niche and stick to it. 

I believe you do need an initial niche to get going but unless you already know what you want to write your blog about you will have a hard time picking just one. 

Rather I suggest if you are unsure what to get started with at first that you make a list of several possible ideas and pick the top 3. Start a blog for each one. This will allow you to get some of your thoughts out about the subjects you've chosen while allowing yourself time to see which subject is easiest and most rewarding for you to write about.

Pick your Host

I suggest either wordpress.com or blogger to get started if you don't know what your going to do yet with your new business. These free sites will allow you to learn the basics and discover what does and does not work for your chosen subjects. Both allow you to make several sites under the same login and are easy to learn the functions of.

It is important to know that you will eventually want to host your account with a service. When you are ready for this step you want to be sure to do your research. You don't want to choose a blogging platform and find out you would have rather used a different host.

Sign Up For Canva

Sign up for the website canva to make your own beautiful images to add into your posts. Psst. The image above was created at canva.com

Write Relevant Posts 

Be sure to write posts about whatever your site is about. For example if your chosen niche is about pets you don't want to write a post about the change in the housing market unless you are specifically writing it about how the change affects pets through their owners.

Create a Business Logo

Again this can be done on Canva. Don't worry you can always update this later.

Include #'s in Your Titles

It has been shown that posts with numbers get more pins and retweets. Think about the pins in your personal boards. Look at some other peoples boards and research what they are pinning.

This is important to continuing  to grow your reach.

Create Business Pages

Start a business account on Pinterest, and a page on Facebook. Research and sign up for a few Affiliate sites. Be sure to look up the requirements. For example, how long does your blog have to be active, do you need a specific number of views to qualify or do you need a certain number of post on your blog.

An easy one is Amazon

Post to Social Media

Posting to Social Media site such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram are a must to gain a following at the beginning. This will allow you to learn the basics quickly and see what works for you. Be sure to include pictures with each post so you get the most clicks out of your views. 

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Don't Forget to Keep Researching and Learning. Once You Stop Gaining New Knowledge About Your Blog That is When it Will Fail, Never Before.

25 Brands I save Money On And You Can Too

 When I am on the prowl for my newest deal I scour the internet. I usually start with clearance sections of my favorite online retailers (some of which are normally very pricey) in order to find what I want without breaking my bank account like a piggy bank.

Browsing online is a better and more fun option for me because I have access to everything a store has to offer. I don't have to deal with the lines or the hordes of people. Plus when I see something I really like (and maybe can't afford) I can add it to my cart to look at again later. This make my experience a lot of fun.

I will purchase an item or two on each of my sprees but I always spend hours finding them. I have children in school and in the morning after they are out of the house gives me the perfect opportunity to take this "me" time.

Some of my favorite retailers are (not in order by degree):

Anthropologie
Alexander Mcqueen
Alice + Olivia
Balenciaga
Bcbmaxazria
Burberry
Calvin Klein
Chloe
Diane Von Furstenberg
Dolce & Gabbana
Elizabeth and James
Free People
GAP
Gibson
Giuseppe Zanotti
Gucci
Guess
J. Crew
Loft
Michael Kors
Milly
Nine West
Old Navy
Tibi
Urban Decay

I am sure there are many more too. These are just the ones I can think of real quick (with a little help from my internet history)

I will be posting some of the great deals I find on some of the deals I find along with the date I posted them so that people know when the deal gets old.

Here are a few items I found this week. 9/8/17

Urban Decay Naked Smoky Eyeshadow Palette

This item is usually upwards of fifty dollars but if you use this link then you can get it for 50% off right now. 

LA Made Braided Tank in Slate

I don't know about you but I love it when a shirt has fancy things going on in the back while it is still comfortable to wear. With this link you can save over 10$ on this shirt today.

ERDEM Karina frayed-edge tweed jacket

This jacket is super adorable. It is 60% off right now. This is one of those items which even on a sale as big as that I still wouldn't be able to afford it. *sigh* but it is fun to look at. #ForeverInMyCart #NeverOnMyShelf

Be sure to click on this one and take a browse yourself!









Well Guys that is all I have for you right now. Be sure to check back for the next set of amazing items.

PS Don't forget to follow and share this page so everyone knows you have great style.

How To Build Your Brand When You Don't Know Where To Start

What does "build your brand" actually mean? Your brand is you. Everything you have done online and everything you want to do.

Building your brand means creating the online presence which will be what you represent as a whole.

Your "you" brand is what you are creating.

Now that is not to say that your brand can't be adjusted as you move forward. It most certainly can. I personally am still in the process of adjusting and building my brand. I have been researching how to refine this and have listed here the best practices I have found.

What Should Your Brand Look Like And How To Figure It Out:

1. List some of your favorite things
2. List some of your beliefs
3. List some of the favorite activities
4. What are some things you know well
5. What are some digital things you could create for your audience based on what you know
6. What information do you already have about the top of your list
7. What could you do continuing research on?
8. How does all this help represent the way you want the worked to view you and your concepts
9. Who do I follow online and want to be like them? This will help you the most if your a bit lost. What does this person represent? Is this consistent with what you want to do?

When you write all of this down then you will have what you want to be. Now you can think about what you want to represent and refine this list. Now you have a brand you want to be.

Image Matters

 

Now don't forget how much your image says about you. Your clothing, style, and personal image will define the first impression any of your future tribe get of you. Identify yourself with a group of people with similar values and look at how they dress in their personal images or videos.

Is the way you dress and present yourself in line with this type of style? How can you adjust your presented image to better represent what your brand is?

Applying Brand To Your Online Presence

What do you need to do for your current online presence?

1. Start adjusting your future posts, tweets, pins and anything else you put out there.
2. Is there anything you have previously put up that goes against what you want to represent? Do you think well it has a lot of engagement? If that engagement don't represent who you are then delete it even if it draws back engagement. 
3. You will see an increase in engagement that represent the tribe you want to be part of. After all you should be trying to create a place where people of similar ideas and beliefs can come together without being looked down upon by people with dissimilar beliefs. 
4. Don't worry about losing some followers at this point in your brand building because it might happen. You will lose the excess followers who would not be on par from those who are truly part of your tribe.

 Don't Be Scared Of Who You Want To Represent As Yourself.

Be Sure To Like, Comment And Share.

Inspiration Work

Daily, Weekly and Monthly Inspirational Quotes Series.  We are inspired by others to be inspirational so some similarities may occur but I assure you all these are our own words.

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Children In School

When parents start sending their children off to school the first year or two can be extremely stressful.
My baby was always what you would call clingy. When preschool started she was able to find her independence quite easily on her own. She was like "bye mom" and when i picked her up like "do i have to leave school?"

This threw me for a loop. I didn't want one of those children who threw a fit when mom tries to leave but I didn't want her to be so nonchalant either. It was very hard for me to see my beautiful little baby as a confident little lady ready to face the world without holding mommy's hand. After all our children are at school for approximately 240 days a year.

1. The other children can influence your child's behavior
2.  Doing well in school now is crucial to becoming successful
3. College is coming (whether your child is in K or 12th grade)
4. Back to School Shopping can cost a bundle
5. What if you can't help them
6. What if they are barraged by harmful information
7. What if they fall off the jungle gym
8. What if they are bullied
9.  Can they make friends
10. Will you get along with the other parents

Kindergarten just started for her at a new school and she is ready to go yet again. I am fortunate enough to be able to spend a lot of time with my kids but I am working hard now to get organized enough to stay home full time. I have been working part time for pretty much my children's whole lives, other than their first year. 

I have a new baby on the way and see this next year and a half or so as my opportunity to change my life and the life of my children. See my entry about getting started with blogging.

What is Audible? And Why All Parents Should Have It

Audible is an amazon based audio-book app which gives you access to a number of audio-book downloads each month for one base price. 

They have the world's largest selection of audio-books. Not to mention the A list celebrities who read them. Many of the audio-books have even won a Grammy. If you don't love the book your listening to, just swap it for another time for free.

It is great for children because it will broaden their vocabulary and take them to other worlds which allows children and adults alike to give their imagination a boost.

They can be played in the car and while household chores are being completed. You can even switch devices and your place will be saved for you.

 

The best part is that you can get a free trial along with your first audio-book completely free. If you don't like it just cancel before the dead lines to avoid the monthly fee of less than 15 bucks. 

If you have never listened to an audio-book before Audible is the place to start. Their selection is amazing and you wont be able to stop listening.

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